Cohort Three: Break the Cycle
How to Heal Repeating Conflicts in Relationships That Matter

 

All times listed in PDT (Los Angeles, California time zone)

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A 5-week live course for individuals and couples ready to shift how they show up in conflict. Whether you're attending solo or with a partner, this course will help you stop repeating painful dynamics, regulate in the heat of the moment, and repair relationships with clarity, empathy, and accountability.

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This course is not just for romantic partners—it’s for anyone who wants to communicate more effectively with the people who matter most: parents, siblings, coworkers, or close friends.

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🗓️ Fridays 5–7pm PDT ~OR~ Saturdays 9–11am PDT
(Choose either the Friday series or the Saturday series—content is the same each day.)

🧠 Optional Office Hours: Wednesdays 12–1pm PDT (Live Q&A + coaching with Kim)

 

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Week 1: Before the Fight Begins
 

Masterclass:
Explore how core emotional wounds and protest behaviors (like blaming, withdrawing, or overexplaining) shape your conflict style. Learn how childhood attachment patterns show up in adult arguments—whether with your partner, parent, or boss—and how to speak from the wound, not the defense.

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Live Demo:
Kim works with a volunteer couple to map a real argument and identify the emotional wounds beneath their reactions. Watch how the tone and outcome shift when someone speaks from vulnerability rather than protest.

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Lab Practice:
Identify your protest pattern in a key relationship (romantic or not). Practice naming the fear behind your reaction and expressing the underlying need—either to your partner or through reflection:
➡ “When I [protest behavior], I’m trying to protect myself from [core fear]. What I really need is…”

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Optional Office Hours: Wednesday 12-1pm PDT: Live Q&A & Check-in's

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Week 2: The Conflict Loop
 

Masterclass:
Learn the four most common conflict patterns (pursue-withdraw, blame-defend, fix-shutdown, fawn-collapse) and how emotional dysregulation keeps them alive. Understand how these dynamics play out not just in romantic relationships, but also with parents, coworkers, and adult children.

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Live Demo:
Watch a couple’s pattern mapped out in real time. Kim demonstrates how subtle shifts in awareness and tone can interrupt escalating conflict.

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Lab Practice:
Map a recurring conflict loop from any key relationship. Then, identify a new behavior or boundary you can test to break the cycle—whether that’s pausing, softening tone, shifting language, or naming your overwhelm.

 

Optional Office Hours: Wednesday 12-1pm PDT: Live Q&A & Check-in's

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Week 3: The Resentment Ledger
 

Masterclass:
Unspoken resentment often lives beneath chronic tension. We’ll explore how emotional debts, invisible labor, and unmet expectations accumulate in all types of relationships—and how to speak about resentment in a way that leads to repair, not rupture.

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Live Demo:
One partner walks through a resentment reveal using this 3-part script:

What happened

How it impacted me

What I need moving forward

You’ll see the listener practice staying present without defending.

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Lab Practice:
Choose a relationship where resentment is building (partner, family, friend, or colleague). Use the 3-part script to either express the resentment or process it internally through journaling or role-play. Learn to validate yourself and clarify what boundary or need would support repair.

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Optional Office Hours: Wednesday 12-1pm PDT: Live Q&A & Check-in's

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Week 4: Regulate Before You Relate
 

Masterclass:
Conflict can’t be resolved when you're dysregulated. This week focuses on nervous system states, pacing mismatches, and how to create safety before, during, and after hard conversations—especially when power dynamics or past trauma are present.

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Live Demo:
Kim walks a couple through a repair conversation, beginning with regulation. You’ll see how emotional tone and timing shape what’s possible.

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Lab Practice:
Learn and practice two regulation tools (e.g., grounding, breath cue, sensory reset). Then, build a personal “regulation menu” you can use in any hard interaction—romantic or otherwise.
➡ “When I feel overwhelmed with [person], I can pause, ground, and return to the conversation with…”

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Optional Office Hours: Wednesday 12-1pm PDT: Live Q&A & Check-in's

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Week 5: Real Repair & Apology
 

Masterclass:
We’ll break down what makes an apology meaningful across different relationships—including romantic, familial, and professional. Learn the 5 elements of real repair: acknowledgment, empathy, accountability, change, and consistency.

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Live Demo:
Kim facilitates a repair conversation between two people, showing how to move from defensiveness to accountability without shame or collapse.

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Lab Practice:
Write a repair statement for a relationship you’re ready to shift—even if the other person isn’t in the room. Practice giving or imagining the repair using this framework:
➡ “I can see how that hurt you. Here’s what I missed… Here’s how I’m taking responsibility… And here’s how I want to show up differently.”
You’ll also design a personal repair ritual or boundary for moving forward with more clarity.

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